Friday Favorites

Happy Friday, friends!  Thanksgiving 2017 is in the books!

I hope you and your family had a wonderful Thanksgiving.  We had a busy but great day.

And just like every Friday, I am linking up with Erika, Andrea and Narci to share our FAVORITES for the week.

ONE

We’ve had a great week off with the kiddos.  Now, I’m not going lie, Monday was rough.  It started off great.  The girls sat by the fire and played while I read.  I thought, maybe this will be the break when they all get along. Ha!  Yeah, Monday was rough.  I am not sure what was wrong with my kids, but evil monsters they were!

I did snap this picture before the horns came out LOL!!!

So peaceful right?  Yeah…didn’t last long!

TWO

Tuesday, Jojo had a hair appointment.  While he was getting his hair cut, one of his best buddies came in to get his cut as well.  So of course, scheming began and Jojo ended up hanging with him the rest of the day.  I love those boys!

Since it was just me and the girls, we enjoyed lunch at Chick-Fil-A!

THREE

I am a wimp when it comes to cold weather.  I hate being cold so the rower has been my best friend.  Y’all, I prefer a rower to a treadmill!  If you are looking for something to have at home, I definitely recommend one!  I try to get a couple of 5Ks each week if I can.

FOUR

One year ago, we had our island installed in our kitchen.  We moved into our house two years ago and have loved making it our own.  We’ve made a lot of changes and still have a couple more to go, but the kitchen is by far my favorite room in our house.  We still need to replace the light fixtures above the island and our appliances.  We are also debating changing out the black granite to more of a white.  Here’s our progress so far…

Before

After

Our cabinets are Divine White and our walls are Revere Pewter.  Perfect color combo!

FIVE

A couple of weeks ago, we had Friendsgiving with our small group and my friend brought a blueberry dump cake.  It was delicious.  I’ve made it three times since then and it’s been a hit every time.  If you are looking for something yummy and easy, try this!

SIX

As always, love our CrossFit 30549 family!  Enjoyed working out with our crew Thanksgiving morning.

SEVEN

We had a great Thanksgiving Day!  Lunch at Joseph’s Nana’s and then back to our house for dinner with my family.  So thankful for this crazy crew I get to call mine.

I am known to be a little OCD.  Ok, maybe not a little ha!  I always want the kiddos dressed nice and sometimes even coordinate outfits.  But this year, I let them dress themselves.  I took a more laid back approach to the holiday. I am trying my best to not sweat the small stuff and enjoy all moments, big and small.

And that wraps up this week’s Friday Favorites.  I am off to pack and clean the house.  Joseph and I leave for our anniversary trip in the morning.  Please say a prayer for us and our kiddos.  Pray for my sister who will stay with our kids while we are gone.

I get super anxious when I fly.  This message has definitely been a timely message for me.

I hope you all have a wonderful weekend and week!  I will see you all soon!

-Maggie

Be a Good Friend Mags: Session Five

Good morning ladies!

I normally try to kick off the week with a video post, but that is not going to happen.  Let me give you five words….Kids are out of school. Ha!  Everytime I tried to start the video there was a scream or a fight beginning between the kids and then I would hear a “MOMMMMMMM!!!!!!”  So I gave in and decided to write a post instead.  The screaming and “Moooommmmmms!” are still happening, but at least now you can’t hear them. Let’s just say all electronics have been taken away and they are in their rooms indefinitely!

I really do enjoy my kiddos being home.  This morning was so amazing.  We turned the fireplace on and the girls played nicely while I read and watched session five’s video.  But then they turned into evil monsters and decided they were going to hate each other for a couple of hours.

But such is life with kids right?

Enough about that, let’s kick off session five!

I am so excited for this week.  I always struggled in the friendship department.  For years, I would beg God to give me a friend.  A person who I could hang out with, be close with, do life with.  I went through a very lonely season a couple of years ago.  I didn’t really have any close friends and I remember dropping Mary off at Pre-K one morning and crying the whole way home.  I specifically remember asking God to help me be ok with being alone in the girlfriend department.  I remember repeating through my tears, all the way home, “You are enough, You are enough for me God.”

And that season lasted a couple of years, but God truly worked in my life, teaching me to enjoy my husband and my children.  I really am blessed with Joseph.  We were best friends before we started dating.  Our relationship is super unique because he is not just my husband, he truly is my best friend.

But as a women, we all need our girlfriends.

In the last couple of years, God has brought some pretty amazing women into my life.  For years I tried to force friendships.  I would put up a front and pretend like I loved everything you loved because then I felt like you would think I was the best person in the world ha!  If you loved pink, I loved pink.  If you loved to craft, I loved to craft.  Newsflash…..Maggie IS NOT crafty!

During that lonely season, God taught me to be ok with me.  He taught me to be happy with the life He blessed me with and be content with what I had.  It took many years, many tough lessons, but I finally learned to be content.  Now that doesn’t mean I don’t struggle with contentment, because one of my biggest struggles is comparison and jealousy.

I loved Melanie’s video and I took a lot from it.  It is so important to have friends.  People in our lives who we can relate to and feel normal around.  People who know the real us and still love us.

God places people in our lives on purpose.  Just like He brought David and Jonathan together, He does the same in our friendships.  I loved how she made mention that Jonathan not only chose David over his father, He chose David over himself!  Wow!  In this season of life, God is really teaching me to be selfless in my relationships.  As a wife, mom and friend.

Being loyal and trustworthy is so important when it comes to friendships.  We’ve all been burned.  Even Jesus was hurt by one of His disciples.  He knew what it felt like to be betrayed.  I’ve been there too.  This is why I kept that wall up for years.  When I would feel myself getting close with someone, I would sabotage the friendship because I had been hurt so many times. In the last couple of years, God has challenged me to work past this and has allowed me to have some pretty amazing frienships.

Our friendships should be a safe place.  We should love our friends as we love our self.  This being said, Melanie talked about comparison and jealousy.  We all are unique, we have our own gifts and we are walking our own journey. But with social media these days, it’s so hard to not compare our lives with others.  Melanie says, “And I know for me I never get more distracted than when I start looking at somebody else’s life and what they’re doing.”

Isn’t that the truth?  We can be going about our day so happy with life and what God has given us.  But then with a tap of our finger and a scroll through Facebook we can go from content and happy to thinking we are the worst wife, mom, friend ever.  Why?  Because we compare ourselves with the best version of others.  All while not knowing what they are battling because you better believe they have struggles.  The grass isn’t always greener on the other side…this is something that has taken me years to learn.  We are all human.  Life isn’t perfect no matter how perfect it appears.  We have struggles and hardships.  Every single one of us.

Theodore Roosevelt said it well when he said, Comparison is the thief of joy.

Ladies, do you want to know when I am the happiest?  When I am not worried about what everyone else is doing and I am focused on walking my road.  When I set a limit on my social media time. When I invest in the people around me.  When I try to bless others and make someone else’s day better.  When I focus on my home and getting things done. This is when I’m the happiest.

We all want to know the secret of being happy.  We are constantly reading books about being happy and not comparing ourselves with others but it is simple.  Look to what God gives you.  Walk your walk.  Be happy for others.  Realize that your friends’ successes take nothing away from yours.  You are you.  Focus on what God has given you and realize that the life you are living right now, is the life God intended you to live.  He wants you to be happy with what you have.  Look around, name your blessings, thank God for those blessings and be happy for others.

And lastly, our true friends should strengthen our grip on God.  Melanie says that friends are small everyday miracles that God gives us.  Every person in our life is in our life for a reason.  We need friends who are also walking close with God.  Friends who are like-minded and will encourage us and pray for us.  Friends we can do life with.  Girlfriends that will cry with us, laugh with us, rejoice with us.  Friends who will be there for us no matter the time of day.  Friends who show us the love of God through their actions.

You know…God has taught me so much in the last couple of weeks.  But one thing He is teaching me currently is that He restores.  We learned last week that nothing is too far gone for Him.  He heals us and uses the broken pieces of our life and makes us whole again.  He can do this for you and for that relationship you’ve given up on.

There is nothing more beautiful than letting God work in our lives and our relationships with others.  Nothing, absolutely nothing is too far gone for God.  Maybe you need Him to restore a relationship in your life.  Ask Him to help you.  You may find out that He wants you to work on you first.  This is what happened to me. Maybe there’s something in your life that prevents you from being a good friend.  Like me, you may struggle with comparison and jealousy.  Ask God to heal your heart.  Ask Him to help you be content with the life He has blessed you with.

What is God revealing to you about your friendships?

Dear God, I ask that you will be with us this week as we talk about friendships.  You show us throughout the Bible how important it is to have people in our inner circle.  People who will pray for us and encourage us, but that will also challenge us.  Lord I ask that you will help us look at our frienships and reveal to us what you want us to see.  Help us be better friends to those around us.  Whatever our struggle may be that seems to sabotage our relationships, I pray that in Jesus name you take it out of our life.  Help us focus on the race you have set before us.  The journey you are having us walk.  Help us stay focused on the blessings in our life so that we can be happy for others.  Help us be genuine, intentional and happy for others’ successes.  Thank you Jesus for being the perfect example of what it is to be a friend.  There is no friend like you.  Help us be more like you.  In Jesus name…

-Maggie

Praying for our Children

I don’t know how these bloggers do it y’all.  Blog every single day.  It’s hard stuff.

We had a really busy weekend.  Jojo played in a football tournament all weekend.  On Monday, he was exhausted and not feeling great so he stayed home and got some much-needed rest.  I guess sometimes you just need a day.

But over the weekend and the last couple of days, I’ve done a lot of thinking.  I’ve thought a lot about my kids.  I feel like this huge burden has been placed on my heart and I don’t know where it’s come from.  Maybe it’s been there all along and I just haven’t been receptive to it?

At the end of our women’s prayer gathering a couple of weekends ago, we all came together to pray for each other.  For the prisons in our lives that are holding us captive.  PK had us take time to pray for our husbands and for our children.  For the prisons in their lives, because who better to know what our family is struggling with than us.  We are their wives, their mothers.  We know their struggles.

It was at that moment that I realized that not only do I have prisons in my life, my kids do too.  Yes, they are only 10, 9 and 6, but I can see it.  So many children are going through anxiety, panic attacks and struggling to deal with their emotions.  We’ve been through anxiety with our older two.  It’s not fun.  It is the hardest thing that I’ve had to experience as a parent.  Especially as a parent who has also struggled with anxiety.

I began to pray for my kids.  For their insecurities, their emotions, their feelings, their heart and their soul.  I prayed for their friends and their families.  I prayed that they would choose to follow Christ at an early age and would choose to love and serve others.  From that moment until now, this burden of praying for my children and my husband has been heavy on my heart.

I was a little behind on my reading, but truth is, I was right on time.  Isn’t it funny how God brings things to our attention at the right time?  In Church of the Small Things, Melanie wrote about how a student in their community committed suicide after being bullied and how the community was rocked wondering what they could have done differently.  She writes that she may not have all the answers, but she did know a couple of things.  I wanted to share them with you word for word…

“I know the darkness wants to come for our kids.  I know that evil is everywhere and looking for a chance to whisper to them that they are less than, that they’re inadequate, that they’ll never be enough, and that their lives don’t matter.” (Pg. 104)

“What if we teach our kids that true identity and security is found in the fact that they are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for {them} to do (Ephesians 2:10)?” (Pg. 104)

“What if we showed our kids what kindness and compassion look like?  There is never any weakness in showing mercy and grace because those characteristics are the very heartbeat of God.  Let’s live in a way that teaches our children the importance of loving our neighbors and that peers aren’t our competition.  When we begin to see our own value, we realize that no one else’s successes or accomplishments diminish our own but rather we see that God has a unique path for each of us.”  (Pg. 105) Can I get an AMEN on this one???

“What if we instill in our kids the words of the apostle Paul to young Timothy, “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind” (2 Timothy 1:70)?  God doesn’t want us to live in fear.  We can call on His power and love to stand up to the bullies in this world and, maybe even more importantly, to speak up for those who are too broken and have been hurt too badly to defend themselves.” (Pg. 105)

And here is what truly hit home for me…

“The Bible says, “Point your kids in the right direction-when they’re old they won’t be lost” (Proverbs 22:6 MSG), which means it’s our job to give them what is basically a road map for life.  It takes work and perseverance and dedication to raise our kids.  It takes sacrifice and commitment and dying to self as we spend eighteen short-let’s be honest LIGHTNING FAST- years pouring into them and equipping them to be responsible, productive, kind, and ideally, employed adults.  And make no mistake; our kids will model what they see much more than what we say.” (Pg.106)

I was speechless.  18 years.  My oldest is almost 11.  Am I preparing him for the world outside of our home?  Am I showing him to be kind and responsible?  What am I teaching him and my girls with my actions?

Last week, Mackenzie asked me something that left me thinking all weekend.  She asked me if she would have to weigh her food and weigh herself when she grows up so she doesn’t get fat.  And y’all.  This really left me thinking.  She watches me.  Watches me weigh and log in my food. She sees the pictures I take to measure my progress.  Is this wrong?  Absolutely not.  Not saying if you do this, you are doing something wrong.  And I’m not saying that one day, I will come back to this.  But right now, for my family, maybe it’s time for me to focus on something else.

Maybe I should focus on teaching her healthy habits like eating clean and working out.  Focus on health instead of outer appearance…  We do this now, but my actions were showing her something different.  Maybe lowering my body fat percentage is a goal to be saved for later.   All of a sudden it doesn’t seem important anymore because all I can think about is how am I teaching my girls to be happy with who they are?  To be confident and know that they are beautiful and that they are fearfully and wonderfully made, unique in their own way.  Our outer appearance doesn’t matter if our heart isn’t in the right place.  Am I teaching them that our security, identity and significance comes from the Lord?

What Melanie said is 100% correct.  Darkness wants to come for our kids.  The enemy will take whatever it can and use it against us and our children.  It will take their weaknesses and insecurities and blow them up in their face.

Joseph and I have talked so much about our kids and how it’s time to take back our family.  It’s time to place God in the center of our lives again and to fight for our children.  To intentionally pray daily for them and for their friends.  To battle for them.  And by battling I mean praying.  Because prayer is powerful y’all.

Will they mess up?  Absolutely!  But that’s where the lessons of forgiveness and grace come in.  And above all else lessons of love.  Love like Jesus so that our kids will know Jesus.  Am I loving them like Jesus loves me?

I know every family is different.  No judgement here.  Each season is different and our journey is not the same.  But right now, in my season of life, I am choosing to be more intentional.  To take my family back and protect them with everything I have.

And it begins with prayer.  Covering them with prayer every single day.  Praying favor over their lives.

This is a lesson from my daddy.  He prayed every single day for us.  Every morning before we woke up, he was on his knees in our living room praying.  And I know his prayers are the reason that I am who I am today.  Did I mess up?  Gosh yes.  Over and over again.  But I can say that I always came back to what I knew was right.  And that’s all I can ask of my children.  That they will know what is right and that they will always come back to it.

In the end, I want them to have a relationship with Jesus.  That’s what is most important.

“Start a youth out on his way; even when he grows old he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6

Lord Jesus, I pray for the lives of our children.  For their hearts, their souls and their minds.  Lord, I pray that you will guide and protect their every step.  That they may come to know you at an early age and follow you all of the days of their life.  Lord that they will know that hard times will come, but that you will be with them every step of the way.  Lord, help us teach our children that their identity is in you.  That they are fearfully and wonderfully made.  Lord that they will know they are beautiful.  That they are smart and unique in their own way.  I pray that you will surround them with Godly friends who love you.  That they will love and serve those around them and be a light for you.  Whatever prisons they are experiencing…fear, anxiety, depression, insecurity, bitterness, hurt…Lord I pray that you will break those chains.  Lord that you will bring peace to their hearts and minds.  Lord help us as parents, love them like you love us.  Lord teach us to be patient and selfless.  Help us be intentional with every moment.  In Jesus name…

Oh Sweet friend.  I don’t know what you are going through.  Maybe you are dealing with a rebellious teenager or those toddlers have you feeling exhausted and overwhelmed.  Whatever it is, take it to Him in prayer.  He listens friend, He really does.

I love you guys!

-Maggie

A Word Fitly Spoken: Session Three

Session three!  We are halfway there ladies.

Last week was very encouraging…this week is very convicting ha!

In all seriousness though, this week is something that I struggle with…my mouth!  Am I alone here?  I hope not.  I am one who speaks before thinking and then feels awful about what I said.

I have asked God to do a mighty work in my life.  I have characteristics that I’ve settled with.  I’ve basically said, “well this is who I am and I’m never going to change.”  But in reality, it’s because I’m still hanging on to those characteristics.  I haven’t given them to God.  I want control and I have a hard time letting go of it.

So this week I am asking God to help me think before I speak.  To remind me that the words that come out of my mouth our powerful.  It’s hard for me to write this post y’all.  It’s hard because this is not a strength of mine.  This is probably one of my biggest weaknesses.  But I am believing that God will work in my life this week.  I am asking Him to help me be more aware of my words before they come out of my mouth.

Luke 6:45 says, “A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart.  For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.”  

This verse reminds me that I must store up good in my heart.  I must fill my heart with things of God.  It is so important for me to read His word, to go to church, to surround myself with like-minded people.  Not because this saves me or is the reason that I will go to heaven.  Not at all.  It’s important because I need it.  Because it encourages me and keeps me accountable.  His word is a reminder of what I want to be.

Our words are powerful.  They have the potential to ruin lives, relationships.  Just as our words affect others, the words spoken to us do the same.  How have words spoken to us affected our lives?  I love what Melanie said about not letting the rest of our lives be determined by words that were spoken to us in the past.  Whatever words you are believing in your life right now, rebuke them.  Rebuke them in His name and ask Jesus to fill you up with His Words.  You are worthy, you are beautiful.  You are fearfully and wonderfully made.  You are worth His life.  He died for you.  You can do all things through Him.

Don’t let past words determine your future.

I think about my childhood and how I was affected by words.  And it makes me think about my kids and how quick I am to say negative things to them.  Who else is going to encourage them if not me?  My words should uplift, encourage.  The same goes with my spouse.  How often I am quick to shoot out negative words?

I am praying that God will help me start within the walls of my home.  I want to be a safe haven for my children.  I want them to know that I am proud of them no matter what.  I want them to feel loved and accepted.  I don’t want them to have to look for that somewhere else.  They are at such a crucial time in their lives.

Goodness…this is a tough subject.  But one that is much-needed.  I am thankful for this conviction and reminder.  If you want to watch my video recap, you can visit my Facebook page here.

I am praying for all of us this week.  May we be an encourager to those around us!

-Maggie

 

We are Created for a Reason: Session Two

Good morning everyone!  I am so thankful for this week.  This video session spoke so much truth to my heart.  If you have not watched it, go watch it now.  If you didn’t sign up for the study, you can watch it too.  Let me know and I’ll send you the link.

I don’t even know where to begin.  Everything Melanie talked about resonated with me.  I love how she reminded us that we are God’s masterpiece.  He made us carefully and thoughtfully.  We each have a purpose in this life.  If you are alive and breathing, there is a reason you are still here.

We go through life wondering if we are significant, wanting to be accepted.  We spend our time looking for meaning and purpose in all the wrong things when we know that Jesus is the “thing” that fills us up.  All the other things only bring temporary fullness.  But with Jesus we are eternally full.

But life is hard.  And finding acceptance in the worldly things brings us instant pleasure.  Sometimes filling up on Jesus means being patient and going through hardships.  It’s not easy to choose Him over things that bring us instant gratification.  I know I’m guilty of it daily.  It requires discipline.

Sometimes it means going through a period of time where we find ourselves in the “pastures” of life.  Seasons where we feel lonely, forgotten and insignificant. Those lessons are some of the hardest.  Those seasons are tough.

Melanie talked about how God sometimes teaches us the biggest lessons through obscurity.  I looked up the word obscurity and it means unknown, unimportant.  How often do we go through life wondering if anyone even notices the things we do?  As moms, I know, this is big.  We do so much for everyone and at times it can be exhausting.  We go through life making sure all of our children’s needs are met.  Wondering at the same time if we are even doing a good job.  We have different things pulling for our attention every day.  Work, bills, laundry, lunches, homework, deadlines…

But friend, God sees you.  He sees you in those hard, lonely times.  When you feel lonely, unworthy and like you can’t measure up.  He sees you trying your best to balance work and home life.  God sees us even when the world has forgotten us.  And it’s in those seasons when God is preparing us for the big things in life.

God called David to be king.  He wasn’t even in the line up when his dad presented his other brothers to Samuel.  He was a shepherd.  He was ordinary.  To the world probably insignificant.  But to God he was perfect.  He would use this ordinary shepherd to do extraordinary things.

Before David became King, he spent his days as a shepherd in pastures.  Probably alone with just the sheep.  I’m sure he had moments of feeling forgotten, insignificant and alone.  Wondering if anyone even noticed him.  My sweet friend, it’s in those pastures of life where we grow and come to know God in a more intimate way.  If you are like me, I tend to pull away when moments get hard.  I pitch a fit.  I really do.  So this reminder was huge for me.  To know that God sees me.  He hasn’t forgotten me.  The Bible says that in this life we will have troubles.  We will.  But God tells us to find peace in Him.  He tells us to take heart because He has over come the world.

God has a calling for your life.  And no calling is insignificant whether it be public speaking to a sold out crowd or washing dishes and laundry.  He has a purpose for each of us.  Going about your day, working hard in your job, being nice to the new kid.  All of those things are callings.

But maybe God has called you to something that you are not quite ready for.  Maybe you feel that uncomfortable feeling.  That feeling of wanting to say, “no Lord you chose the wrong person.”  The feeling of wanting to run away and say, “why don’t you call so and so.  They would do a much better job.”  Or maybe you know your calling, but God is asking you to be still and wait.

And the waiting….oh the waiting is sometimes the hardest part.  Melanie said something that really stuck with me.  She said that we are called to be faithful and trust even when we don’t want to.  That was such a real and raw statement to me.  I know there are days when I just don’t want to trust.  I don’t want to be faithful.  I want to fix things myself because some days I feel that will bring a quicker result.  But then that would be settling.  Settling for something under God’s plan.  And if we settle sweet sister, think of all that we are missing.  God has big blessings for you.  But when we settle we miss out.  Our pastor said something on Sunday that has stayed with me this week.  He said that God calls us to aim higher.  God doesn’t call us to settle.  Aim Higher girlfriend!  Shoot for the stars.  Embrace the woman God has made you to be and aim higher.  Don’t settle.

This was a hard post for me.  I started writing it on Monday and just felt like it wasn’t finished.  I let it sit for a couple of days and God turned it in a completely different direction.  Maybe someone needed this encouragement today.  Maybe you are in a lonely, feeling forgotten season of life.  Take heart.  God is there.  He sees you sweet friend.

Or maybe God has called you to do something you don’t want to do.  Aim higher and do it.  Experience the blessings God has for your life.  And if you are in the waiting season of your calling, be patient.  I know that’s easier said than done, but slow down and be still.  Enjoy life, even in the waiting.

“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” John 16:33

Take heart friends and experience His peace today.  I hope you all have a wonderful Wednesday.

 

-Maggie

 

 

Virtual Bible Study: Recap of Week One

Hi there!  I am super excited that you have joined me on this bible study journey.  I believe there are about 20-25 ladies who are signed up and are following along.  This is so awesome y’all.  I look forward to hearing from you during the upcoming weeks.

Each week I want to take some time to recap what we’ve learned.  I will post a short video and a blog post to share a little bit about what resonated with me during the week.

I went ahead and bought the Church of the Small Things book along with the study guide.  You do not have to read the book, but I’ve enjoyed it so far.  I read chapters 1-3 this week.

Throughout the week we talked about a couple of things.  The first was about remaining in Jesus and what that means to us.  I believe that remaining in Jesus goes along with trusting Him.  When we remain in Jesus we bear fruit.  We make a difference in the lives of those around us.

Many times when we are doing the small things we find ourselves frustrated, angry and just really fed up.  Remaining in Jesus keeps us focused.  It reminds us to be joyful in all things.  This week tested me.  I had a bad day where I let my frustrations ruin my day.  I had a bad attitude and really had to fight hard to change it.  I went back to reminding myself that the small things matter, but they will not make a difference if I am grumpy doing them.

In the book, Melanie Shankle talks about Abby Wambach.  She played for the US Women’s National Soccer Team.  Gatorade aired a commercial as a tribute to her and in the background she says these words, “Forget me.  Forget my number, forget my name, forget I ever existed.  Forget the medals won, the records broken, and the sacrifices made.  I want to leave a legacy where the ball keeps rolling forward, where the next generation accomplishes things so great that I am no longer remembered.”  (Church of the Small Things, page 43)

Wow.  What humility.  She had great success, but all she wanted was to make sure that those behind her accomplished great things as well.

But I agree with Melanie when she says that it’s hard to forget those that have come before us.  When you have lived life to the fullest, taken advantage of every opportunity, enjoyed the small and the big things and “you have carpe diemed the heck out of who and what God has created you to be, you leave an incredible mark on the people around you and on those who will come long after you’re gone.” (Church of the Small Things, page 43)

We leave an incredible mark on those around us.  And you know what?  Sometimes it’s the small things that make the BIG difference.

I think about my dad and the legacy he left behind.  You know, my dad was not perfect.  But he did take advantage of every situation to show God’s love.  Whether it was our waitress at a restaurant or the cashier at the store, he always took the opportunity to tell them God loved them.

He did those small things and those small things impacted the lives of many.  It took me to a memory I have of him growing up that I shared in the video.

I hated storms as a kid.  Especially the ones with loud thunder and crazy lightning.  One night during a storm, I woke up in the middle of the night and cried out for my dad.  To my surprise, he was already laying in the floor beside my bed and he let me know he was there.  “Aqui estoy hija,” he said.  (I am here my daughter)

That small thing that he did, to come lay on the floor by my bed, will be something I will never forget.  All of the little, daily, mundane tasks we do each day, they all matter.  We may go about our day thinking nobody notices, but they do.  You are making an impact on everyone around you.

Nothing is wasted when we look at it through the lens of what God has for us.  Everything we go through, everything we do is all part of who we are.

“For some, that may be a public role on a big stage, but for the vast majority of us, it’s about being faithful in the small stuff: going to the grocery store, volunteering in our kid’s classroom, befriending the new girl, coaching a Little League team, showing up for work every day, being kind to our neighbors.” (Church of the Small Things, Page 25)

What we do is important.  Big or small, it matters to those around you and most of all it matters to God.

We go through life looking for that big moment.  We pray and ask God to show us what His will is, what His purpose for our life is.  We desperately need Him to show us that big thing that we are waiting for.  But we forget that life isn’t made from just one thing.  Life is in all things, every single moment of our life.  That is where life is.  The small things may seem insignificant at the moment, but they are making a big difference in the lives of those we encounter every single day.

“A life isn’t made from one thing, one big moment, or one huge success.  It’s created moment by moment, often with pieces that don’t look like anything beautiful on their own but are the very fabric of who God meant for us to become as we pack lunches, raise kids, love our neighbors, and simply be who he created us to be; nothing more, nothing less.” (Church of the Small Things, page 15)

We finished up the week reading Ruth chapter one.  Ruth and Naomi were embarking on a journey on their own.  Naomi had lost her husband and sons.  She told both of her daughter-in-laws to return home, but Ruth chose to stay with her.  She took a risk and chose to be loyal to Naomi.  She was faithful in one small moment.  As we go throughout the study we will see how the story unfolds.

Sweet friend, you may be going through life, moment by moment wondering if what you do truly matters.  I want to tell you that it absolutely does.  I know you are probably tired, exhausted and worn out, but hang tight.  God is using you right where you are.  You may think your life is small, but the impact you make each day is big.

Live each day to the fullest.  Choose to be faithful in all things because one day our kids, grandkids and great grandkids will be talking about all the little things we did for them and what a big difference it made in their life.  Just like my dad coming to lay beside my bed is something I will forever remember, your kids will do the same.

Love hard.  Offer grace.  Enjoy every moment.

What resonated with you this week?  How did this week impact your life?  I would love to hear from you!

-Maggie

 

 

What’s Up Wednesday {10.25.17}

Hi Y’all!  It’s time for What’s Up Wednesday which means it is the last Wednesday of the month.  I can’t believe October is almost over.

Today I am linking up with Shay, Sheaffer and Mel for their fun link-up.  Every month we answer these questions:

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1. What We’re Eating This Week

I’ll just be real honest here and say, lots of fast food.  Ugh.  I haven’t made it to the grocery store this week.

2.  What I’m Reminiscing About

It’s Halloween on Tuesday!  This year we found everyone’s costume without any crazy drama.  I did have to order Jojo’s because he wanted a very specific clown mask.  What in the world?  I miss the days where they wore cute costumes.  Just look at my sweet babies…

3.  What I’m Loving

I am loving the cooler weather!  It finally feels like fall in Georgia.

4.  What We’ve Been Up To

Our CrossFit gym is celebrating our anniversary all month-long.  We divided into teams and have been working hard all month to accumulate points.  We’ve had a great time!

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We also celebrated our anniversary with a scavenger hunt, crossfit style.  We went all over our small town.  So much fun!

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5.  What I’m Dreading

This one is always hard.  I can’t think of anything that I’m dreading.  Maybe Christmas shopping??  I know, I know.  I’m the weird one, but Christmas shopping stresses me out.

6.  What I’m Working On

Laundry laundry laundry!  Ha!  No, I’m kidding.  Maybe.

Earlier this month we went to Hilton Head Island for Fall Break and then we had painters at our house for a couple of days.  I can’t take a day off when it comes to laundry so a whole weekend really put me behind.  I’m working on getting caught up and not stressing about it.

7.  What I’m Excited About

Basketball!  Football is over and now it’s time for basketball.  Don’t get me wrong, we love football around here but when it’s over it’s over and we move on.

The girls are playing ball through our local rec. department.  They are both on “big” girl teams this year so I’m excited to watch them play.

Jojo is playing with his travel team in a local league during the winter.  He’s a 5th grader playing on a 6th grade team which makes me a little nervous.  He did the same last year as a 4th grader and improved tremendously.

I’ve been reminding Jojo of this quote.  Some days he’s not very excited about practicing and going to lessons.  I know he’s young, but I want to instill the practice of practicing.  We can’t just count on our natural ability to do things.  We have to practice and work hard.

8.  What I’m Watching/Reading

I am working on finishing up Of Mess and Moxie by Jen Hatmaker.  My goal was to be done by now, but I am not a fast reader.

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I’m also doing a virtual bible study through my Facebook page and blog for the book, Church of the Small Things by Melanie Shankle.  We started the study on Sunday and it will go for six weeks.

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As far as what I’m watching…everything ha!

Keeping Up with the Kardashians is my guilty pleasure.  This is Us is so good.  Joseph and I watch Survivor together.  We’ve watched it for almost 10 years.  Riverdale is on its second season.  If you liked Pretty Little Liars, you will love this show.  You can’t do Thursdays without Greys and How to Get Away with Murder.  And I am loving American Housewife.  It is such a funny show!

I think I realized why I can’t finish a book ha!  Yes, I watch a lot of shows.  There are a few more that I watch here and there, but these are my favorites.  Thank goodness for the ability to record episodes.

9.  What I’m Listening To

We sang this song at church on Sunday and it’s been on repeat this week.

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When I crank my car it will randomly select songs from my music library.  These were a couple of the random selections.  Took me back in time!

10.  What I’m Wearing

Lots of plaid shirts and jeans.  I’m excited to add in my boots now that it feels like fall.

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I’m wearing my Born Primitive Halloween Shorts and my new sweatshirt.  You can read all about Born Primitive here.  Use my BFF’s coupon code Sanders15 for 15% off of your purchase.

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I also bought this new sports bra from them and love it.

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This shirt came from one of our local boutiques, Polished Chic.  I got so many compliments at church about it.

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Earlier this year, a blogger posted a pic of the cutest house slippers.  They were gold and sparkly, but when I went to order them they had sold out.  While I was at Target yesterday, I decided to walk through the shoes and came across these.  I was so excited until I noticed that they were for little girls.  But I decided to try on a large just to see and they fit!  They are super comfy and so adorable.  Oh and only $17.99 since they are “kids” sizes.  I am a size 7 in women’s shoes and these fit perfectly.  Aren’t they adorable!?

I love my slippers, but I also love a good, comfy robe.  I wear one every single day.  I needed a new one and found this one while we were on vacation.  The brand is Calvin Klein and it is super soft.  I bought it at TJ Maxx in Hilton Head.

11.  What I’m Doing This Weekend

On Friday, I am going to a friend’s house for a Cabi Party.

Saturday is the first Saturday since August that we do not have football.  Joseph’s Aunt Rose is hosting her annual Halloween Party.  She throws the best parties!

Sunday we will go to church.  It’s dress up day for the kiddos so they get to wear their costumes to church.  Although, I told Mary and Jojo they would need to pick a non-scary outfit to wear.

12.  What I’m Looking Forward to Next Month

Joseph and I will celebrate our 13th wedding anniversary on December 11th.  We always take a few days to get away and enjoy some time to ourselves.  I am super thankful for my sister who holds down the fort for us at home.  We normally go the second weekend in December, but this year we are leaving at the end of next month.  We decided to go with a tropical trip instead of going to Grove Park Inn like we’ve done the past couple of years.  I’ll miss going to GPI.  It’s always a great trip but I’m excited to change it up this year.

13.  What Else is New

I think I covered it all!

Happy Wednesday friends!  Thanks for reading.

-Maggie

Weekend Recap with Some Monday Musings

Mornin’!

It has poured all morning long.  I’m not going to lie.  The couch is calling my name and all I want to do is take a nap as I listen to the rain fall.  But.  Laundry.

If you follow me on social media, you saw my post about my laundry.  I have laundry coming out of everywhere.  I am so bad about getting behind.  I can stay on top of it for a couple of weeks and then an out-of-town trip comes up and I get behind.  When I get behind it takes me weeks to catch up.  Am I the only one that this happens to?

I did choose though, to not stress about it.  A clean house and caught up laundry doesn’t define who I am.  Life is busy and crazy and sometimes the laundry piles up and the dirty dishes stay in the sink for a couple of days.

So today, I am planning on finishing it all up.  We just got a text letting us know that softball games are cancelled and this is our first week without football practice.  So that means a night in for the Eternos.  We will be working on laundry if you need us!

Speaking of football.  We finished up our season this Saturday.  It’s always bittersweet to see it end, but we are ready for some basketball around here.  Jojo has been taking lessons during the off-season and this year we are playing with our tournament team in a local league.  It’s our first year that we won’t play with the rec dept.  I’m going to miss watching all of our local boys play this year, but I’m excited to see Jojo continue to grow on the court.  He improved so much last tournament season and I can’t wait to see how he does this year.

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Our CrossFit gym celebrated our ONE year anniversary with an awesome scavenger hunt.  I think we ended up running five miles total after it was over.  My team came in first woohoo!  We are so thankful for our community.  They have made this an amazing first year.  I am also thankful for our friends Rob and Staci.  Going into business with friends can be a bit scary, but we’ve said it from the beginning that our friendship is number one.  We’ve had a great time and have grown closer.  We love you guys!

Saturday night we finally spent some time with our friends who we have missed so much this year.  The boys had a blast and even the girls got in on the fun by coming to “boo” the boys.  I am so thankful for this group of boys and their parents.  I didn’t have this growing up and I am so blessed that my kids do.  I love that their friends’ parents are our friends.  I can’t wait to see them grow up and go through all of the milestones together.  Before we know it, we will be watching them play high school ball, going to homecoming and prom….ahhh I better just stop talking now because I’m going to have a breakdown if I don’t.

On Sunday we went to church.  We started a new series called Unlearning Religion.  So so good.  I also wore my new shirt I bought from one of our local clothing boutiques, Polished Chic.  The material is soft and you can dress it up or down.  I wore it with my jeans and new leopard shoes from Old Navy.  Isn’t it so fun!?  #ilovefall

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After lunch we went to the gym to make up workouts because it’s competition month and we need those points ha!

We ended our night with all of us sitting at the table eating dinner.  This doesn’t happen very often because we are so busy.

We started our Virtual Bible Study yesterday.  Make sure to go to my Facebook page to see the video and join in on the discussion.  You can also read my post from yesterday here.  Y’all it’s so good.  You don’t want to miss out.

This album has been on repeat this weekend.  The worship team sang the song Grateful from it and it spoke such truth to my heart.  Since dad passed, worship has been hard.  For a long time I couldn’t sing along during worship.  I couldn’t even mouth the words because everything inside me was trying not to lose it.  Each week it gets better.  This Sunday I really did feel like I was finally able to worship in a way that I had not since dad passed.  I just keep thinking to myself that as I stand and worship, that is what my dad is doing at that moment.  He is worshipping too!  Face to face with Jesus.  Ahhh….chills!!!

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And last but not least, today 17 years ago, my hubby asked me to be his girlfriend.  I can’t believe we’ve spent that many years together.  I am so thankful that God chose Joseph for me.  He is my best friend.  He is my person.  My constant in this crazy life.  We’ve had highs and gosh we’ve had some lows, but through it all we have stayed together.  He has taught me how to love selflessly.  He makes me brave and encourages me to shoot for the stars.  Thank you babe for loving me and all of my crazy.

 

And that wraps up this Monday blog post.  It was a little bit of everything.  I hope you have a wonderful rainy Monday.

 

-Maggie

 

Virtual Bible Study: Church of the Small Things Introduction and Session One

Good evening everyone!

I am super excited to finally kick off our first Virtual Bible Study.  I am so glad you have joined me on this journey.

You should have received an email to get started with session one’s video link.  Go ahead and watch the video.  It is about 17ish minutes long.

Here is how this will work:

Each week on Sunday I will post a video on my Facebook Page and a blog post on my blog.  I will introduce the week and go over the week’s discussion questions.  You will be able to comment with your responses and interact with the other ladies that have signed up.  I encourage everyone to comment and participate.  This will be a great way to get to know other ladies that we would never have met had it not been for this study.

During the week you will work on the “on your own” section.  This is kind of like “homework,” but please don’t feel bad if you don’t finish it all.  Life is busy and some weeks we will get it all done and other weeks we won’t.  Don’t let that discourage you at all.

On Thursdays, we will come together through FB live to go over the week and share things we learned or felt that God showed us.  The live will be at 8 pm EST and will last about 15-20 minutes.  If you can’t jump on during that time, you can still view the video later.

We will do this for six weeks.

If you have any questions, please message me, email me (myeterno@gmail.com) or if you have my number shoot me a text.  This is not meant to be stressful.

I am excited that you have decided to join me and I can’t wait to see what all God has for us during the next six weeks.

So let’s get started…

After you watch session one.  Answer the following questions.  You can comment using the comment section here or go to Facebook and comment there.

1. What is your name and where are you from?
2. Which of Melanie’s thoughts from this session’s video resonated most with you, and why?
3. What kind of person do you want to become?

What really resonated with me is that the small things are just as holy as the big things.  I’m a girl who always felt that my accomplishments defined me.  I lived for those big moments and when those big moments didn’t happen, I became seriously disappointed.  It showed in my life through depression and anxiety.

I was constantly asking God to show me His will and His purpose for my life.  But all along, I was ignoring what was right under my nose.  My family.  They were my purpose.  I was a wife and a mom and I had to be ok with the fact that my calling at that moment was just that.  A wife and a mom.

Melanie reminded me that the small acts of service that I do for my family are important.  But more important is my attitude towards those small things.

As far as what kind of person I want to become…I want to be joyful.  Life brings so many ups and downs, but I want to experience the joy of the Lord at all times.  I want to be intentional with my day.  I want to obey in the little things.

What about you?  What spoke to your heart from the first session?  And what kind of person do you want to become?  Share in the comments or click here to go to my Facebook page.

I’m going to try to add my videos to my blog, but I’m having some technical difficulty.  I’m hoping to get all of that figured out this week.  I think my video was a little too long so I’ll have to make sure the ones to come are shorter.

As I head to bed, I want to leave you with one more thing.  Take the following verses and write them down on a note card.  Take the note card and place it where you will see it every day.

“Are not two sparrows sold for a penny? Yet not one of them will fall to the ground outside your Father’s care.  And even the very hairs of your head are all numbered. So don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows.”

Matthew 10:29-31

Every detail of our life is important to God.  Don’t think for a moment that your daily requests to Him go unnoticed.  He cares for you.  You are worth more than many sparrows.  Don’t be afraid my friend.  Trust in the love that God has for you.  He will take care of you no matter the need.

-Maggie

Friday Favorites

Oh my goodness, can I get a TGIF?!

Y’all.  This week.  Gracious.  We had SIX softball games in Four days, Football practice three of those days and we hosted small group at our house.  Today, we have our school fundraiser for the big kids and my crossfit team is doing our weekly team workout.

Not to mention, laundry is piled up, bedrooms need cleaning and my sink has not been empty all week.  #momminainteasy

But it’s Friyay and that makes me happy!

Today, I am linking up with Erica, Andrea and Narci to share some of our favorite things from the week.  Grab your coffee, take a breather and get comfy.

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I was looking through old pictures and came across this one.  Can we just take a minute to look at my sweet girl?  We’ve had a rough week y’all.  She has been extra whiny and emotional.  She cried one morning because I started to fix Mary’s hair before I did hers.  It’s been rough, but then I see these pictures and it reminds me that my baby isn’t a baby anymore.

I normally try to space out having lunch with the kiddos at school.  It was Jojo’s day, but she cried and well…I made it work.  Jojo has “brunch” at 10:55 so I went to Hardees at his request ha!  Chicken biscuits for him and his buddy.  Then I left a little early around 11:20 to go back to Hardees and get this sweet thing some chicken tenders and fries.  She has lunch at 10:32 so I was cutting it close, but I made it! img_7154

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Mary went on her first overnight field trip to Jekyll Island last week.  She had a blast, but we were so happy to have her home.  I felt like a “bad mom” because I didn’t go with her, but she was well taken care of by all of my sweet momma friends.  I think it really helped her to do this without me.  Earlier this year, she struggled with anxiety and some minor panic attacks.  I was so worried that it would all come back, but thank God it didn’t. Mackenzie missed Mary!  As much as they fight, they really do love each other.  Mackenzie made Mary a sweet card while she was gone.

THREE

I am loving my new Halloween booty shorts and sports bra by Born Primitive.  You can read all about this awesome brand here.  Ladies, if you are looking for a new sports bra-check them out!  Use my BFF’s code: Sanders15 for 15% off.

FOUR

This week was lunch with my kids week.  I try to do this a couple of times during the school year.  The weather was beautiful this week so we sat outside.

FIVE

It’s competition month at our crossfit box.  We are celebrating our ONE year anniversary all month-long.  Here I am #meanmuggin representing my #teamnumberjuan.

I love watching our morning crew interact with the evening crew, athletes lifting heavier, running faster, jumping on a box and rope climbing for the first time.  We’ve had a blast!  If you are looking for a community of athletes from all different walks of life and fitness levels, come see us!  You don’t have to be “in shape” to come.  We help you get there.  All of our workouts can be scaled and modified to fit your fitness level.  I promise you can do it!  Check us out on Facebook!

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My sister-in-law dropped off some goodies at our house this week.  In the goody bag was this awesome, big jar of squash relish.  Oh my.  Y’all.  This stuff is so good.

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My sweet Mackenzie made me this card at school.  Gosh I love that girl!

EIGHT

On Sunday, we decided to go to 12 Stone Church.  We are “in between” churches I guess you can say.  After dad passed away, I wanted nothing to do with church.  We didn’t go for over a year and then couldn’t get in a good routine of going.  On Sunday, our schedule was a little off so we opted to go to 12 Stone.  I’m so glad we did.  It was exactly what I needed.  We started a new series that you can watch here.

What I have loved is that each day, they have a devotion that goes back to the message from Sunday.  It’s really challenged Joseph and I this week.

Here’s Day 1.  There’s links to the following days at the bottom if you want to follow along.

If you are a praying friend.  I know not everyone prays, but if you do will you pray for us?  We have struggled to find a church home since dad passed.  Pray that we can find a place that will challenge, encourage and help us grow in our walk with God.

This Instagram post spoke such truth to my heart this week.

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I am hosting a Virtual Bible Study and would love for you to join me!  We will start this Sunday.  You can read all the details here.  I’ve worked on it this week to get a head start and it’s going to be so good!  It’s already encouraged and challenged me so much!

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TEN

A couple of weeks ago I spotted these cute shoes at Old Navy.  I am a sucker for leopard print and love that it’s back in style this fall.  You need these shoes!  Pair them with some jeans and a plaid shirt for a fun fall look.

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And that wraps up this week’s Friday Favorites.

We have a busy but fun weekend ahead. It is finally feeling like fall around here and we’ve been blessed with some beautiful days.  I hope you all have a wonderful weekend.

-Maggie